Bethesda Workshops 

a place for healing from sexual addiction in Nashville, TN

Suggested Reading

Sexual Addiction

Arterburn, Stephen, Addicted to Love

Arterburn, Stephen & Stoeker, Fred, Every Man’s Battle

Carnes, Patrick, Contrary to Love

Carnes, Patrick, Don’t Call It Love

Carnes, Patrick, Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery

Carnes, Patrick, Out of the Shadows

Carnes, Patrick, Sexual Anorexia

Carnes, Patrick, Delmonico, David, & Griffin, Elizabeth, In the Shadow of the Net

Corley, Deborah & Schneider, Jennifer, Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, to Whom & How Much to Reveal

Earle, Ralph & Crow, Gregory, Lonely All the Time

Earle, Ralph & Laaser, Mark, The Pornography Trap

Ferree, Marnie C., A L.I.F.E. Guide: Women Living in Freedom Everyday

Ferree, Marnie C., No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction

Laaser, Mark, Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction

Laaser, Mark, Faithful and True Workbook

Laaser, Mark, A L.I.F.E. Guide: Men Living in Freedom Everyday

Leahy, Michael, Porn Nation

Magness, Milton, Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners

Maltz, Wendy & Maltz, Larry, The Porn Trap

McDaniel, Kelly, Ready to Heal: Women Facing Love, Sex and Relationship Addiction

Means, Patrick, Men’s Secret Wars

Melody, Pia, Facing Love Addiction

Renaud, Crystal, Dirty Girls Come Clean

Schneider, Jennifer & Weiss, Robert, Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession?

Spring, Janis Abrahms, After the Affair

Struthers, William, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

Willingham, Russell & Davies, Bob, Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and theHealing Power of Jesus

Young, Kimberly S., Caught in the Net: How to Recognize the Signs of Internet Addiction

For Partners of Addicts

Beattie, Melody, Beyond Codependency

Beattie, Melody, Codependent No More

Black, Claudia, Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies and Secrets

Carnes, Stephanie, Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts

Carnes, Stephanie, Mari Lee, & Anthony Rodriguez: Facing Hearbreak – Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts

Conquest, Wendy, Letters to a Sex Addict: The Journey Through Grief and Betrayal

Corcoran, Maurita, A House Interrupted – A Wife’s Story of Recovering from Her Husband’s Sex Addiction

Hemfelt, Robert, Minirith, Frank & Meir, Paul, Love Is A Choice

Laaser, Debra, Shattered Vows

Means, Marsha, Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars

Miller, Molly Ann, My Husband Has a Secret

Norwood, Robin, Women Who Love Too Much

Rossenberg, Ross, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

Schneider, Jennifer, Back From Betrayal

Schneider, Jennifer & Deborah Corley, Surviving Disclosure – A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust

Spring, Janis Abrahams, After the Affair

Whitfield, Charles L., Boundaries and Relationships

Wilson, Meg, Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage

Sexual Abuse

Adams, Kenneth M., Silently Seduced: Understanding Covert Incest

Allender, Dan B., The Wounded Heart

Bass, Ellen & Davis, Laura, Courage to Heal

Blume, E. Sue, Secret Survivors

Engel, Beverly, Partners in Recovery

Frank, Jan, Door of Hope Recognizing and Resolving The Pains Of Your Past

Friberg, Nils C. & Laaser, Mark, Before the Fall: Preventing Pastoral Sexual Abuse

Hopkins, Nancy Myer & Laaser, Mark, editors, Restoring the Soul of a Church: Healing Congregations Wounded by Clergy Sexual Misconduct

Hunter, Mic, Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse

Langberg, Diane, On the Threshold of Hope

Lew, Mike, Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse

Love, Patricia, Emotional Incest Syndrome

Murray, Marilyn, Prisoner of Another War

Family of Origin

Adams, Kenneth, When He’s Married to Mom

Black, Claudia, It Will Never Happen to Me

Bradshaw, John, Healing the Shame That Binds You

Bradshaw, John, Homecoming, New York: Bantam Books, 1990.

Dayton, Tian, Trauma and Addiction

Friel, John & Friel, Linda, Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families

Hemfelt, Robert & Warren, Paul, Kids Who Carry Our Pain

Sanford, Linda T., Strong at the Broken Places

Smalley, Gary & Trent, John, The Blessing Workbook

Smalley, Gary & Trent, John, The Gift of the Blessing

Tracy, Steven R., Mending the Soul: Understanding and Healing Abuse

Whitfield, Charles, Healing the Child Within

Couples Recovery

Beam, Joe, Forgiven Forever

Beam, Joe, Becoming One, West Monroe

Carder, Dave, Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs

Carder, Dave, Torn Asunder Workbook

Carnes, Patrick, Laaser, Debra, & Laaser, Mark, Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships withRecovery, Romance & Reality

Clinton, Tim, Before A Bad Goodbye

Corley, M. Deborah & Schneider, Jennifer P., Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal

Harley, Jr., Willard F. His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage

Hart, Archibald D., & Morris, Sharon Hart, Safe Haven Marriage

Harvey, Donald, I Love You – Talk to Me

Johnson, Sue, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Leadem, John & Elaine, One in the Spirit – Meditation Course for Recovering Couples

Paul, Robert, Finding Ever After

Rainey, Dennis and Barbara, Moments Together for Couples: Devotions for Drawing Near to Godand One Another

Rossenberg, Ross, The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

Spring, Janis Abrahms, After the Affair

Vernick, Leslie, Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Hope

Healthy Sexuality

Bercaw, Bill & Bercaw, Ginger – The Couples Guide to Intimacy

Cohen, Richard, Gay Children – Straight Parents: A Plan for Family Healing

Hart, Archibald, The Sexual Man

Hart, Archibald; Weber, Catherine Hart; & Taylor, Debra, Secrets of Eve

Jones, Stanton L. and Yarhouse, Mark A., Ex-gays? A Longitudinal Study of Religiously Mediated Change in Sexual Orientation

Katehakis, Alexandra, Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction

Laaser, Mark, Talking to Your Kids About Sex

Maltz, Wendy, Sexual Healing Journey

McCluskey, Christopher & Rachel, When Two Become One

Penner, Cliff & Penner, Joyce, Restoring the Pleasure

Rosenau, Doug, The Celebration of Sex

Rosenau, Doug & Wilson, Michael Todd, Soul Virgins: Redefining Single Sexuality

Yarhouse, Mark, Homosexuality and the Christian – A Guide for Parents, Pastors and Friends

General Recovery

Amen, Daniel, Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

Burns, David, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

Carnes, Patrick, Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps

Carnes, Patrick, The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships

Cloud, Henry & Townsend, John, Boundaries

Cloud, Henry & Townsend, John, Safe People

Dodd, Chip, The Voice of the Heart

May, Gerald, Addiction and Grace

Milkman, Harvey & Sunderwirth, Stanley, Craving for Ecstasy: The Consciousness and Chemistry of Escape

Peck, M. Scott, The Road Less Traveled

Scazzero, Peter, The Emotionally Healthy Church

Stanley, Charles F., The Gift of Forgiveness

Stoop, David, Real Solutions for Forgiving the Unforgivable

VanVonderen, Jeff and Ryan, Dale & Juanita, Soul Repair: Rebuilding Your Spiritual Life

Willingham, Russell, Relational Masks: Removing the Barriers That Keep Us Apart

Wilson, Sandra, Released from Shame: Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Big Books

Alcoholics Anonymous, AA World Services

Co-Dependents Anonymous, Co-dependents Anonymous

S-Anon 12 Steps, S-Anon International Family Groups

Sex Addicts Anonymous, SAA Literature

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Augustine Fellowship

Sexaholics Anonymous, SA Literature

Working the S-Anon Program, S-Anon International Family Groups


The Message, Eugene Peterson

Recovery Devotional Bible (New International Version)

Serenity: A Companion for 12 Step Recovery, Robert Hemfelt & Richard Fowler

The Soul Care Bible, (New King James Version) Tim Clinton, Edward Hindson, & George Ohlschlager, editors


Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction

Chambers, Oswald, My Utmost for His Highest

Crabb, Larry, Inside Out

Crabb, Larry, Shattered Dreams: God’s Unexpected Pathway to Joy

Hurnard, Hannah, Hinds’ Feet on High Places

Lucado, Max, In the Grip of Grace

Lucado, Max, You Are Special

Manning, Brennan, Abba’s Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging

Manning, Brennan, The Ragamuffin Gospel

Moore, Beth, Breaking Free

Moore, Beth, Breaking Free Workbook

Nouwen, Henri, The Inner Voice of Love: A Journey Through Anguish to Freedom

Nouwen, Henri, Life of the Beloved

Rivers, Francine, Redeeming Love

Shelly, Rubel, I Knew Jesus Before He Was a Christian and I Liked Him Better Then

Wilson, Sandra D., Into Abba’s Arms: Finding the Acceptance You’ve Always Wanted

Yancey, Phillip, What’s So Amazing About Grace?

Suggested Music

These albums and songs are often shared at workshops and have become especially meaningful to many in recovery.


  • Promised Land – features song “Took Me Out of Egypt”
  • The Wind and the Water – instrumental music from the FingerPainting series

  • Somebody’s Daughter – project about pornography; features songs “Free” and “Is It Me?”
  • ZOE GROUP: (Acappella selections)

    • Look to the Hills:
      • “When I Look To The Hills”
      • “When the Night Is Falling”
      • “I Will Change Your Name”
    • Our God Reigns:
      • “Had It Not Been the Lord”
      • “A Shield Around Me”
      • “Jesus Will Bind Your Wounds”
    • In This Place:
      • “As the Deer Thirsts”
    • Deep Calls To Deep:
      • “I Need You More”
      • “Deep Calls to Deep”
      • “On Eagles’ Wings”