Suggested Reading
Sexual Addiction
Arterburn, Stephen, Addicted to Love
Arterburn, Stephen & Stoeker, Fred, Every Man’s Battle
Carnes, Patrick, Contrary to Love
Carnes, Patrick, Don’t Call It Love
Carnes, Patrick, Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery
Carnes, Patrick, Out of the Shadows
Carnes, Patrick, Sexual Anorexia
Carnes, Patrick, Delmonico, David, & Griffin, Elizabeth, In the Shadow of the Net
Corley, Deborah & Schneider, Jennifer, Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, to Whom & How Much to Reveal
Earle, Ralph & Crow, Gregory, Lonely All the Time
Earle, Ralph & Laaser, Mark, The Pornography Trap
Ferree, Marnie C., A L.I.F.E. Guide: Women Living in Freedom Everyday
Ferree, Marnie C., No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction
Laaser, Mark, Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
Laaser, Mark, Faithful and True Workbook
Laaser, Mark, A L.I.F.E. Guide: Men Living in Freedom Everyday
Leahy, Michael, Porn Nation
Magness, Milton, Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners
Maltz, Wendy & Maltz, Larry, The Porn Trap
McDaniel, Kelly, Ready to Heal: Women Facing Love, Sex and Relationship Addiction
Means, Patrick, Men’s Secret Wars
Melody, Pia, Facing Love Addiction
Renaud, Crystal, Dirty Girls Come Clean
Schneider, Jennifer & Weiss, Robert, Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession?
Spring, Janis Abrahms, After the Affair
Struthers, William, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain
Willingham, Russell & Davies, Bob, Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and theHealing Power of Jesus
Young, Kimberly S., Caught in the Net: How to Recognize the Signs of Internet Addiction
Co-Addiction / Codependency
Beattie, Melody, Beyond Codependency
Beattie, Melody, Codependent No More
Black, Claudia, Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies and Secrets
Carnes, Stephanie, Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
Carnes, Stephanie, Mari Lee, & Anthony Rodriguez: Facing Hearbreak – Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts
Corcoran, Maurita, A House Interrupted – A Wife’s Story of Recovering from Her Husband’s Sex Addiction
Hemfelt, Robert, Minirith, Frank & Meir, Paul, Love Is A Choice
Laaser, Debra, Shattered Vows
Means, Marsha, Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars
Miller, Molly Ann, My Husband Has a Secret
Norwood, Robin, Women Who Love Too Much
Schneider, Jennifer, Back From Betrayal
Schneider, Jennifer & Deborah Corley, Surviving Disclosure – A Partner’s Guide for Healing the Betrayal of Intimate Trust
Spring, Janis Abrahams, After the Affair
Whitfield, Charles L., Boundaries and Relationships
Wilson, Meg, Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage
Sexual Abuse
Adams, Kenneth M., Silently Seduced: Understanding Covert Incest
Allender, Dan B., The Wounded Heart
Bass, Ellen & Davis, Laura, Courage to Heal
Blume, E. Sue, Secret Survivors
Engel, Beverly, Partners in Recovery
Frank, Jan, Door of Hope Recognizing and Resolving The Pains Of Your Past
Friberg, Nils C. & Laaser, Mark, Before the Fall: Preventing Pastoral Sexual Abuse
Hopkins, Nancy Myer & Laaser, Mark, editors, Restoring the Soul of a Church: Healing Congregations Wounded by Clergy Sexual Misconduct
Hunter, Mic, Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse
Langberg, Diane, On the Threshold of Hope
Lew, Mike, Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse
Love, Patricia, Emotional Incest Syndrome
Murray, Marilyn, Prisoner of Another War
Family of Origin
Adams, Kenneth, When He’s Married to Mom
Black, Claudia, It Will Never Happen to Me
Bradshaw, John, Healing the Shame That Binds You
Bradshaw, John, Homecoming, New York: Bantam Books, 1990.
Dayton, Tian, Trauma and Addiction
Friel, John & Friel, Linda, Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families
Hemfelt, Robert & Warren, Paul, Kids Who Carry Our Pain
Sanford, Linda T., Strong at the Broken Places
Smalley, Gary & Trent, John, The Blessing Workbook
Smalley, Gary & Trent, John, The Gift of the Blessing
Tracy, Steven R., Mending the Soul: Understanding and Healing Abuse
Whitfield, Charles, Healing the Child Within
Couples Recovery
Beam, Joe, Forgiven Forever
Beam, Joe, Becoming One, West Monroe
Carder, Dave, Torn Asunder: Recovering From Extramarital Affairs
Carder, Dave, Torn Asunder Workbook
Carnes, Patrick, Laaser, Debra, & Laaser, Mark, Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships withRecovery, Romance & Reality
Clinton, Tim, Before A Bad Goodbye
Corley, M. Deborah & Schneider, Jennifer P., Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal
Harley, Jr., Willard F. His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage
Hart, Archibald D., & Morris, Sharon Hart, Safe Haven Marriage
Harvey, Donald, I Love You – Talk to Me
Leadem, John & Elaine, One in the Spirit – Meditation Course for Recovering Couples
Paul, Robert, Finding Ever After
Rainey, Dennis and Barbara, Moments Together for Couples: Devotions for Drawing Near to Godand One Another
Spring, Janis Abrahms, After the Affair
Healthy Sexuality
Bercaw, Bill & Bercaw, Ginger – The Couples Guide to Intimacy
Cohen, Richard, Gay Children – Straight Parents: A Plan for Family Healing
Hart, Archibald, The Sexual Man
Hart, Archibald; Weber, Catherine Hart; & Taylor, Debra, Secrets of Eve
Jones, Stanton L. and Yarhouse, Mark A., Ex-gays? A Longitudinal Study of Religiously Mediated Change in Sexual Orientation
Katehakis, Alexandra, Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction
Laaser, Mark, Talking to Your Kids About Sex
Maltz, Wendy, Sexual Healing Journey
McCluskey, Christopher & Rachel, When Two Become One
Penner, Cliff & Penner, Joyce, Restoring the Pleasure
Rosenau, Doug, The Celebration of Sex
Rosenau, Doug & Wilson, Michael Todd, Soul Virgins: Redefining Single Sexuality
Yarhouse, Mark, Homosexuality and the Christian – A Guide for Parents, Pastors and Friends
General Recovery
Amen, Daniel, Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
Burns, David, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
Carnes, Patrick, Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps
Carnes, Patrick, The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
Cloud, Henry & Townsend, John, Boundaries
Cloud, Henry & Townsend, John, Safe People
Dodd, Chip, The Voice of the Heart
May, Gerald, Addiction and Grace
Milkman, Harvey & Sunderwirth, Stanley, Craving for Ecstasy: The Consciousness and Chemistry of Escape
Peck, M. Scott, The Road Less Traveled
Scazzero, Peter, The Emotionally Healthy Church
Stanley, Charles F., The Gift of Forgiveness
Stoop, David, Real Solutions for Forgiving the Unforgivable
VanVonderen, Jeff and Ryan, Dale & Juanita, Soul Repair: Rebuilding Your Spiritual Life
Willingham, Russell, Relational Masks: Removing the Barriers That Keep Us Apart
Wilson, Sandra, Released from Shame: Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
Big Books
Alcoholics Anonymous, AA World Services
Co-Dependents Anonymous, Co-dependents Anonymous
S-Anon 12 Steps, S-Anon International Family Groups
Sex Addicts Anonymous, SAA Literature
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Augustine Fellowship
Sexaholics Anonymous, SA Literature
Working the S-Anon Program, S-Anon International Family Groups
Bibles
The Message, Eugene Peterson
Recovery Devotional Bible (New International Version)
Serenity: A Companion for 12 Step Recovery, Robert Hemfelt & Richard Fowler
The Soul Care Bible, (New King James Version) Tim Clinton, Edward Hindson, & George Ohlschlager, editors
Inspirational
Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction
Chambers, Oswald, My Utmost for His Highest
Crabb, Larry, Inside Out
Crabb, Larry, Shattered Dreams: God’s Unexpected Pathway to Joy
Hurnard, Hannah, Hinds’ Feet on High Places
Lucado, Max, In the Grip of Grace
Lucado, Max, You Are Special
Manning, Brennan, Abba’s Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging
Manning, Brennan, The Ragamuffin Gospel
Moore, Beth, Breaking Free
Moore, Beth, Breaking Free Workbook
Nouwen, Henri, The Inner Voice of Love: A Journey Through Anguish to Freedom
Nouwen, Henri, Life of the Beloved
Rivers, Francine, Redeeming Love
Shelly, Rubel, I Knew Jesus Before He Was a Christian and I Liked Him Better Then
Wilson, Sandra D., Into Abba’s Arms: Finding the Acceptance You’ve Always Wanted
Yancey, Phillip, What’s So Amazing About Grace?
Suggested Music
These albums and songs are often shared at workshops and have become especially meaningful to many in recovery.
DAVID BARONI: www.davidbaroni.com
MUSIC FOR THE SOUL: www.musicforthesoul.org
ZOE GROUP: www.zoegroup.org (Acappella selections)
- Look to the Hills:
- “When I Look To The Hills”
- “When the Night Is Falling”
- “I Will Change Your Name”
- Our God Reigns:
- “Had It Not Been the Lord”
- “A Shield Around Me”
- “Jesus Will Bind Your Wounds”
- In This Place:
- “As the Deer Thirsts”
- Deep Calls To Deep:
- “I Need You More”
- “Deep Calls to Deep”
- “On Eagles’ Wings”